The Words of a Friend

The encouraging words of a friend are worth more than gold. I know that the encouraging words that my friends give me keep me going. I look on them as blessings directly from heaven above. I thank God for them (the words and the friends) and I thank my friends for building me up with words that edify according to the need of the moment (Ephesians 4:29).

Solomon wrote: “A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity” (Proverbs 17:17). You don’t need me to tell you how important a friend is. Scripture is full of passages that tell us that God will watch over us and not allow us to endure more temptation than we are able; that we ought to approach the throne of grace to find grace to help in time of need (2 Corinthians 12:9; Hebrews 4:16; 1 Corinthians 10:13). One of the ways that God provides this care and protection is through the friends that surround us. Solomon’s point is that a friend, a true friend, loves you no matter what happens; will stick with you through thick and thin. I said at the beginning that the encouraging words of a friend are worth more than gold. However, sometimes the worth of a friend is not seen in his (or her) words, but in his (or her) presence. Sometimes just knowing that someone is there is enough to get you through a difficult situation.

Americans live in a culture that was built by “rugged individualism.” We are freedom-loving people, and we don’t want anyone fooling around with our freedom and independence. One thing we want to be careful of, though, is not letting our pride shut out our friends. Sometimes when we get into a tough situation, we don’t want to ask for help or cry out at all because that would not be in keeping with the rugged individual. We don’t want to take charity! Did you know that “charity” is a word that means “love”? I realize that we don’t want to be perceived as someone who always has his hand out, but the “charity” of our friends is a star in their crowns and a blessing to them. If we deny them the opportunity to bless us, we deny them a blessing, as well.

Let me encourage you to let God help you and bless you through the friends who are around you. Now, we need to recognize that such a blessing is only going to come through those friends who encourage you according to God’s will. It’s not a blessing when your friends encourage you to go against God’s will. Still, when you’re in trouble, when you’re besieged from every angle, let your friends be a help and a support to you, always remembering to pray for God’s help, too. He loves you and so do I.

Donnie Bates

For the Love of the Church

The apostle Paul wrote about the things he had suffered in 2 Corinthians 11:23-28. I have to tell you, when I read the list of things he suffered for his faith, it makes my puny little complaints seem to evaporate. I haven’t suffered physically like he did. However, there is one part of this list that I can, at the very least, begin to understand. At the end of his list of trials, Paul said, “Apart from such external things, there is the daily pressure on me of concern for all the churches” (2 Corinthians 11:28). If you love the church the way a Christian must love the church, you know what it’s like to have concern for the church.

Christians must always have a concern for the bride of Christ, the church, the kingdom of God, the household of the living God, the temple of God. We understand that. However, there is a growing concern for the church today that she is being threatened from within. Jesus said that He would build His church and the gates of Hades would not overpower it (Matthew 16:18). That statement was and is true. Even if the enemy is able to infiltrate the hearts of Christians and lead them out of the grace of God so that they lose their souls forever, the church is not overcome because of the faithful who remain and the faithful who have already gone to their reward (Revelation 2:10). Still, anyone who pays attention to the growing dilemma in the church today cannot help but be concerned.

I want to offer a little encouragement here to those who are suffering through the attacks of the enemy of the church of our Lord. The first word of encouragement comes from one of you who put this in a way I hadn’t thought of, but it truly encourages me. The church is His bride, not mine; our Lord Jesus Christ will take care of His bride. Remember that. Jesus is not blind nor is He just waiting patiently (and dispassionately) until the church (and each member of the church) decides what he or she is going to do. He’s not going to let the faithful down. Second, remember those passages we noted a moment ago. “I also tell you that you are Peter, and upon this rock I will build My church; and the gates of Hades will not overpower it” (Matthew 16:18). “Do not fear what you are about to suffer. Behold, the devil is about to cast some of you into prison, so that you will be tested, and you will have tribulation for ten days. Be faithful until death, and I will give you a crown of life” (Revelation 2:10).

You and I, as members of Christ’s church, have a job to do. Our job is to remain faithful and to help our brothers and sisters remain faithful, among other things. When false teachers appear in our ranks (and the apostle Peter said they would, 2 Peter 2:1), we must oppose them. We will have that concern for the churches that Paul speaks about but know this: we do not fight this battle alone! There is Someone fighting alongside us Who is more powerful than our enemy and if we remain faithfully at His side, we will not lose this battle!!

Go back to that passage in 2 Peter. Verse 1 says: “But false prophets also arose among the people, just as there will also be false teachers among you, who will secretly introduce destructive heresies, even denying the Master who bought them, bringing swift destruction upon themselves.” Did you catch that these false teachers come in among us and secretly introduce heresies? They don’t do it openly. Many of those who are hearing false doctrine today think they are hearing “nothing unscriptural.” That’s why it’s so important to “search the Scriptures daily to see if these things be so” (Acts 17:11).

Notice how God deals with this problem. Peter wrote that these false teachers are bringing “swift destruction upon themselves.” Now, it may not seem very swift, but that’s only because we’re applying our own understanding of time to the problem. You may rest assured that God is in control and that destruction, when it comes, will be swift and decisive and, sadly for those who do not repent, eternal. In the verses that follow 2 Peter 2:1, Peter shows that God has always been in control and no one in history has been able to “get away with” the sinful lives they lead and the righteous who have been afflicted by such unrighteousness have been rescued. Peter said all of that to say that God “…knows how to rescue the godly from temptation, and to keep the unrighteous under punishment for the day of judgment, and especially those who indulge the flesh in its corrupt desires, and despise authority. Daring, self-willed, they do not tremble when they revile angelic majesties” (2 Peter 2:9, 10).

The “daily pressure of concern for all the churches” of our Lord is going to continue if we remain faithful because we’re going to care what happens to the bride of Christ. However, we can be encouraged to know that the Bridegroom is equally concerned about His bride and not just sitting idly by. In order to be faithful, every one of us must resist the enemy and fight against the attempts to defile the pure and holy and blameless bride (Ephesians 5:26, 27). But take courage. God is fighting alongside you and if you remain faithfully His, you will win! He loves you and so do I.

Donnie Bates