The Blessing of Suffering

You would think that a message dedicated to encouragement would say something like “the suffering is going to end,” wouldn’t you? I mean, how encouraging is it to tell someone who is suffering to just “grin and bear it”? Well, on the surface, not very! Still, there is encouragement when we realize that our heavenly Father has made provision for us to be able to endure and even thrive while suffering in this life (James 1:2, 3).

Yes, it’s true that someday the suffering will end for those who are faithfully united with Christ. A day is coming in which God will wipe away every tear (Revelation 21:4). “There’ll be no sadness, all will be gladness” in heaven. However, we are not in heaven yet, are we? Many people are all too well acquainted with that fact; perhaps some of you. I take great comfort in knowing that God is with me until the end (Matthew 28:20); that He personally makes sure that I do not suffer more temptation than I am able to bear (1 Corinthians 10:13). But there is one passage that speaks directly to how we should suffer, and the blessings involved in suffering the right way, that I find especially encouraging.

Most of us are familiar with “The Beatitudes” (Matthew 5:3-12). We could spend weeks studying the depth of this passage of Scripture. There is much wisdom here concerning many aspects of everyday life, but let’s stay on the subject of how to suffer and the blessings involved. The first three beatitudes have to do with suffering more than those beatitudes that immediately follow. In verses 3-5, we read that there are blessings involved for those who voluntarily take on the qualities of poverty of spirit, mourning, and gentleness (meekness). Perhaps you’ve heard it explained that the word “blessed” means “happy,” but let me assure you that it is not a happiness as the world understands happiness. The world thinks of happiness as an emotional response to, or determined by, circumstances. If someone knocks on my door and presents me with a “big ‘ole” check for $10,000,000.00, I’m going to be happy because of those circumstances. Jesus uses a word in the beatitudes, however, that describes a “blessedness” in spite of circumstances. It’s a “contentment,” if you will, on a much deeper level than the world thinks of happiness.

“Poverty of spirit” is not depression. “Depression” is a humbling or “lowliness” caused by circumstances. Poverty of spirit is a voluntary humility or “emptying of self.” See Philippians 2:5-8. “Mourning” is not just sadness, but sadness on a level that requires action. It’s the difference between godly sorrow and worldly sorrow (2 Corinthians 7:10, 11). “Gentleness” (meekness) is a word worthy of a great deal of study. It involves humility to a great extent. It involves self-control. It is the quality of keeping your own wants and desires in check for the good of another. We sometimes call Moses the “father of the meek,” but not because he was a weakling. (Read Exodus 32:19, 20 if you think he was weak.) Moses was more concerned with God and His Name than he was about anything to do with his own life.

So, what we find is that the first three steps on God’s ladder of success (Matthew 5:3-5) are downward, not upward. Interesting, isn’t it? But now, catch this point: God doesn’t just leave us in the basement. James writes that if we humble ourselves before God, He will lift us up (James 4:10). And the point is that only by God lifting us up can we get where we need to be.

When I teach a series of lessons on the Beatitudes, I make the point that when we talk about voluntary poverty of spirit (emptying oneself), it’s a lot like making yourself a doormat. Well, you know what happens to doormats, don’t you? They get stepped on! And that hurts; sometimes a lot. The last beatitude addresses that one little problem.

I count Matthew 5:10-12 as one beatitude. You can count it as two or three if you want, but look at these three verses very carefully. When you make yourself a doormat, people will step on you. That won’t be fun, but there is a blessing here, too. There were (and are) people doing the right thing (righteousness) and suffering for it; being persecuted for it. And Jesus says they have access to that deep level of “blessedness” that the world doesn’t understand. Why? Because theirs is the kingdom of heaven, that’s why! But Jesus continues. He says that sometimes the persecution is going to come in the form of insults and people falsely saying all kinds of evil against us because of Him (Jesus); because of doing the right thing (righteousness). And here, too, is that deep “blessedness.” Now He tells us how to approach this kind of suffering; what attitude to have. He says, “Rejoice and be glad…”

What??? I thought I was supposed to moan and groan, to gripe and complain! No, that’s the world’s response. Christians are supposed to “rejoice and be glad” and He gives a reason. Not only can we have “blessedness” that is deeper than any worldly happiness, but we can take comfort in the fact that we are in good company “…for so they persecuted the prophets who were before you.”

I have to tell you that it’s harder for me to endure it when people insult friends and loved ones of mine than when they insult me. I don’t mean that insults don’t hurt me, because they do. I do mean, though, that when you insult a friend of mine, you’ve stepped much further over the line (in my mind) than when you just insult me. Still, I must resist the temptation to lash out and realize (and make sure my friends who’ve been insulted realize) that there is a blessing for us. God is with us! We are in good company!

You may have some difficult circumstances to deal with this week. There may be people who are going to insult you and say all kinds of evil against you on account of Jesus, but you hang in there! You may be stepped on by a lot of muddy feet, but don’t give up! God is with you and loves you more than you can know in this life, and so do I.

Donnie Bates

What's Up, Doc?

As is the case with most preachers, I suppose, my ministry has been full of opportunities to sit with, cry with, minister to, and encourage families suffering through the hospitalization of loved ones, frightening diagnoses, and heartbreaking prognoses. And, like every other person on the planet, I have had to deal with the same things in my own family. Sickness and death are a part of life in this world, and we have to deal with it, but sometimes it gets really, really hard to know how. I have to be honest with you…I don’t have a magical incantation that I mutter that takes all the pain and anxiety away. I do, however, have some encouragement that will make the pain and anxiety somewhat easier to bear.

One of the truest statements I ever personally heard was what a nurse said to my family and me when my mother was in the hospital for heart surgery. He said that the next few hours were going to be a lot harder on us than on my mother. Boy, was he ever right! Even though the operating room staff called us every hour or so to give us an update (and every report was good and encouraging) those hours of that surgery were pure agony. We sat around and talked and joked and did everything we could to do what none of us expected to do - take our minds off what was happening in the other room. And we prayed. We prayed as a group out loud, and we prayed individually and silently; and we prayed throughout the whole surgery. I do not hesitate to say that the Lord heard our prayers that day and gave us a favorable answer.

But sometimes it doesn’t happen that way, does it? Sometimes an elderly loved one is stricken down with an illness and even though the family and the church pray continually and fervently, death is the outcome. Sometimes it’s not an elderly loved one, but one stricken down “in the prime of life” by an accident or an illness and again, though heaven be flooded with prayers, a life is ended. What then? Some react angrily, blaming God and giving up on the notion of prayer. What do you do when you pray and pray and the answer comes back, “No!”? You keep praying, that’s what!

When someone you love is on his or her deathbed, you pray “without ceasing” (1 Thessalonians 5:17). When the doctor comes in with the test results and says someone you love has a few more months to live, you pray without ceasing. When that terrible phone call comes in the middle of the night and one of your children has been in an accident, you pray without ceasing. And when the last enemy we will face in this life (death) wins a battle and a loved one dies, you pray even more because you need it even more.

The apostle Paul said that death is an enemy (1 Corinthians 15:26) and I would never disagree with someone inspired by the Holy Spirit, but death is not the only enemy at work in situations like these. Our true enemy is Satan and when tragedy strikes or threatens, he’s at work trying his best to convince you that God will not take care of you. And many, many people fall into the trap of thinking he’s right. They blame God. They give up on prayer because “it doesn’t work, or Mom would not have died!” And they fail the test, and they lose the battle.

When you find yourself suffering through what every family of man has suffered and will continue to suffer until the Lord returns, take the necessary steps to give yourself the best chance of enduring with a sound faith. Pray…pray without ceasing!! Pray, believing that you will receive what you ask (Mark 11:24). Pray in faith without doubting (James 1:6). And tell your concerns and fears to your brothers and sisters in Christ and get them praying, too. Know the truth and the power of James 5:16: “The effective prayer of a righteous man can accomplish much.” It has always made sense to me that if that verse is true, imagine what can be accomplished by a whole room full (or church full) of righteous people praying! And when those times come (and they will come), times when all the prayers that are offered cannot stop what is appointed for every person, pray all the more that God will help you through the death of a love one. My word of encouragement to you this week is that through the most difficult times, do not give up on God because He has not given up on you. He loves you and so do I.

Donnie Bates